Bipolar Supporter – Do You Feel Guilty?
Published: Mon, 01/03/11
Hi ,
How's it going for you today?
I hope you're having a good day.
Because of what I do, I hear from
many supporters of loved ones with
bipolar disorder.
And many times they share their
feelings with me.
Many times those feelings are negative
feelings.
Living with a loved one with bipolar
disorder is difficult at best, and I
understand that, because I lived with
my mother when she was at her worst
with her bipolar disorder, and it was
very hard for me.
I experienced some of those negative
feelings, too.
Some of those negative feelings can
include:
1. Anger
2. Bitterness
3. Resentment
4. Annoyance
5. Irritation
6. Agitation
7. Frustration
8. Impatience
9. Aggravation
10. Disappointment
11. Dissatisfaction
12. Stress
But then, feeling these negative feelings
against someone I loved, I would
ultimately feel guilt, shame, and
remorse as well.
These are some of the things that
I talk about in my courses/systems:
SUPPORTING AN ADULT WITH BIPOLAR DISORDER?
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http://www.bipolarsupporter.com/report11
SUPPORTING A CHILD/TEEN WITH BIPOLAR DISORDER?
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http://www.bipolarparenting.com
HAVE BIPOLAR DISORDER?
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http://www.survivebipolar.net
Do you feel guilty?
Have you been experiencing some
of these negative feelings toward
your loved one?
One thing that helps is talking with
them and sharing your thoughts and
feelings openly.
Even though these are negative
feelings, they are still your feelings,
and you need to accept responsibility
for them.
If they go on too long without you
doing anything about them, they will
come out in negative ways.
For example, your anger can turn to
rage, and you may end up in a huge
fight with your loved one over something
that may be trivial otherwise.
If you stuff your negative feelings,
you might become overwhelmed by
them.
The stress will build up until you start
to feel anxious all the time.
So you need to be open and communicate
these feelings to your loved one.
They should be aware of how you feel.
You will probably find that just by sharing
them, that some of them (if not most of
them) will go away just by talking about
them and the cause of them.
If your loved one and some specific
behavior of theirs is responsible for
your feelings, they may be able to stop
the behavior, and then you won't feel
that way any more.
The important thing is that they know how
you feel.
If, for some reason, you don't feel that
you can share your thoughts and feelings
with your loved one, you still need to get
them out somehow, or they can still build
up and cause you stress and harm.
You may want to seek out your own
counselor or therapist with whom you
can share these feelings and talk about
what's bothering you.
If not, maybe keeping a journal would
help you. Write down your thoughts and
feelings to at least get them out, so they
don't build up inside you.
This way the guilt won't pile up and
cause you stress that you don't need and
can't handle.
Are you feeling guilty?
Is it because of negative feelings you
have against your loved one?
Try one of the methods I've just talked
about, so that the stress doesn't build up
in you.
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Well, I have to go!
Your Friend,
Dave
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