Bipolar: There Are Two Types of This
Published: Wed, 11/21/12
Hi ,
How's it going for you today?
I hope it's a good day for you.
Did you know that there are two types of
pride?
There is a good kind...
And a bad kind.
And the bad kind of pride can wipe you out!
Webster's dictionary gives one definition as: "a
reasonable or justifiable self-respect; delight or
elation arising from some act, possession, or
relationship (to congratulate oneself because of
something one is, has, or has done or achieved)."
That's the good kind of pride.
The other kind is described by Webster's dictionary
under prideful, and means: "full of pride; disdainful,
haughty."
That's the bad kind of pride.
Both have to do with EGO as well.
And Webster's defines ego as: "the self, especially as
contrasted with another self or the world."
So, on the one hand, we can be talking about positive
self-esteem, which is very good for someone with
bipolar disorder and/or their supporter.
BUT...
We could also be talking about self-esteem as in too
much of it, or thinking you're better than someone
else.
That's where the disdainful and haughty attitude
comes in.
And that can cost you.
That's what happens a lot of times to someone
when they're in a bipolar manic episode.
They have grandiose ideas and think they're better
than they are.
What if your loved one was prideful and thought that
they no longer needed their therapist?
That can truly interfere with their treatment and
recovery from bipolar disorder.
Or what about a supporter attitude of "You're sick,
but I'm not," acting superior to their loved one?
Think how awful that would be to your loved one.
In my courses/systems, I go over goal-setting, and
that you can take pride in yourself when you achieve
your goals.
Especially the goal of stability with bipolar disorder.
Again, this is the good kind of pride.
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You should have goals - both short-term and
long-term, and you CAN take pride in meeting
those goals, or in a job well done, and especially
in achieving stability with bipolar disorder.
But you have to watch out for the bad kind of
pride.
I've seen this illustrated in person in some of the
support groups I attend:
Say, Mary, thinks she is a better supporter than
say, Joan, because her loved one is more stable.
Now, that's not right.
It's a very negative thing.
Because then Joan's self-esteem might suffer,
thinking she is not a good supporter just because
her loved one is struggling more than Mary's loved
one.
So pride and ego have to be juggled, kept in balance,
and you have to have the right attitude.
Here is the key:
You need to be HUMBLE.
Webster's defines humble as: "not proud or haughty;
not arrogant or assertive."
Arrogant is being full of pride and ego.
So the point of all this is to encourage you to have
good self-esteem (take pride in what you accomplish)...
While avoiding the bad kind of pride that makes you
think you're better than someone else.
In other words, don't compare yourself or your loved
one to anyone else.
Just do the best you can and strive toward stability.
Don't let the bad pride wipe you out.
Because it can if you let it.
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Well, I have to go!
Your Friend,
Dave
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