Bipolar: When is Enough Not Enough?
Published: Tue, 11/12/13
Hi ,
How's it going for you today?
I hope it's going real good for you.
Let me ask you something:
When is enough not enough?
In other words, do you sometimes
feel like you're giving all you can,
but it's still not enough?
Do you sometimes feel like it's
not fair?
Let me tell you about Mark and his
wife Dianne:
You see, Dianne has bipolar disorder,
and Mark is her main supporter.
Usually, Dianne is pretty good about
taking her medication, going to see her
doctor, and doing all the other things to
keep her bipolar in check.
And usually, she treats Mark pretty good.
But sometimes, she gets in these awful moods,
and then she takes them out on him.
She doesn't go into a full-blown episode or
anything, but it's like she just has a "bad day,"
and just doesn't act like herself.
Then, no matter what he does, no matter how
much compassion he shows her, it's just not
enough.
She gets really angry, for example.
Then she takes it out on him, and Mark gets
on the defensive, and before you know it,
they're in a fight.
He usually doesn't even know what they're
even fighting about, but there you have it -
they certainly are fighting!
And sometimes Mark can't control his temper,
so even though he knows he shouldn't fight back,
he does it anyway, which just makes matters
worse, because Dianne just gets madder and the
fight just goes on.
But then Mark tries to end the fight, even admits
he was wrong, and Dianne just keeps fighting.
No matter what Mark does, it's not good enough
for Dianne.
She's just in this bad mood, and she just keeps
taking it out on him!
This is just so frustrating for him.
He tries to show love and compassion for her,
but it's like it's not good enough when she gets like
this.
He just doesn't know what to do when she gets like
this.
In my courses/systems, I go over the signs and
symptoms of a bipolar episode, but I also talk
about how sometimes your loved one will just
have a bad bipolar day:
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That's just going to happen sometimes.
It's just really tough when they take it out
on you.
And, unfortunately, sometimes that will happen
as well.
Because when we're not at our best, we tend to
take it out on the person closest to us, and for
someone with bipolar disorder, that's their
supporter.
If I were to give any advice to Mark, I would
explain that it doesn't mean that Dianne doesn't
love him, or that she is even doing this on purpose,
but that it's part of her disorder.
Sometimes, when someone with bipolar disorder
has a "bad bipolar day," they take it out on those
around them.
They just aren't themselves.
However, this can leave their supporter feeling like
no matter how much they do, no matter how much
compassion they show, that it's just not enough.
I would tell Mark the same thing I'll tell you:
Don't take it personally.
It's just a bad day.
They happen.
Try to keep your loved one separate from their
disorder and remember what they're like when
they're not manifesting symptoms of their disorder,
and try to have more patience with them than usual.
What do you think?
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Well, I have to go!
Your Friend,
Dave
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