Shocking Story And Lesson For Bipolar Supporters
Published: Fri, 07/17/09
I wanted to send out a quick story of something
that just happened to me.
I was thinking of this story because of the resource
that I sent out...
"How to Instantly Deal With Anger, Irrationality,
And Mania In Your Loved One with Bipolar Disorder"
Located:
http://www.bipolarsupporter.com/specialoffer/dealwithanger
Here's the story.
Okay, I had this person working for me. This
person was doing a great job. I mean a great job.
All of a sudden this person started acting
really weird. They would EXPLODE for nothing.
A few times they cursed me out. A couple of
times they hung up on me.
It was disturbing. I kept wondering what
the heck is wrong with them. It's important
to note this person is NOT a person on my staff
that is known to have a mental illness.
Anyway, time went by and I noticed that
the problems with this person went from me
to others on my team.
It got worse and worse.
Each time, I tried to figure out how we
could avoid making the person mad. Guess
what? The more we tried the more mad the
person became.
One day after being yelled at, I realized
that my strategy of walking on egg shells
and trying to keep the peace would not work
and basically I was making things far worse.
I realized that I was violating my own rules.
So I decided to follow my own suggestions for
dealing with someone that has bipolar disorder
that is angry and manic most of the time.
I did and the results have been great. No more
problems. It's kind of odd that I forgot to
follow my own system.
Well it's not kind of odd, it's easy to get caught
up and forget what you have been trained to do
with someone who is acting out in this nature.
I don't know what illness this person has. I am
not sure. But something is wrong so I went ahead
and treated the person like a person who had an
illness like bipolar disorder and was out of control.
The reason why I am writing this to you is because my
situation reminds me of what so many bipolar supporters do:
-They try to keep the peace
-They walk on egg shells
-They try in every single way and many unreasonable
ways to avoid conflict
-They try to change themselves.
This is ALL wrong. ALL wrong. It doesn't work.
There are MANY strategies that work but these do NOT.
This will not work. I know there are thousands of people
on my list making this mistake every day.
Don't do it.
If you need help in this area, I have a resource titled:
"How to Instantly Deal With Anger, Irrationality,
And Mania In Your Loved One with Bipolar Disorder"
Located:
http://www.bipolarsupporter.com/specialoffer/dealwithanger
If you need it, get it. Nevertheless, I have to run
and I will catch you tomorrow morning.
Have a good one.
Dave