Bipolar Disorder? Discover The 10/2 Equation
Published: Mon, 07/27/09
Hi ,
How's it going for you?
Today I need to talk to you about
something that is really bothering me.
You know I get tons and tons of emails,
right? Well a lot of them are positive
ones, and they make me feel really good,
like ones that tell me how much these
emails help them, and others on how
much they have learned from my courses
and things like that, like in all the testimonials
I have.
Those are the emails I really like, and the
ones I'm used to, pretty much. But then
there are the emails I get that really get
me down. And I'm not a person who
likes to get down, or who gets down
easily.
But I got this email, and this woman
went on and on and on about her
problems. Now, don't get me wrong -
it's not that I don't care about people's
problems, because I wouldn't be doing
what I'm doing if I didn't care. You
know that, right?
But it's just that I deal in solutions.
That's what I write about and teach in
all my courses, how to find solutions,
and how to be solution-oriented:
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Not dwelling on the problems is part of it.
Being a positive person is another part of
it. But definitely NOT being a negative
person is NOT part of it! You can't find
ANY solutions that way! And no one likes
to listen to a complainer.
I don't dwell in the negative - I dwell
on the positive, and I surround myself with
positive people, because they bring me up,
and keep me positive, too. I get really
disappointed when people around me are
negative.
Like this email I got the other day where
this woman just went on and on complaining,
but didn't offer any kind of solution to the
problems she was having.
To tell you the truth, after reading that
email, I felt like I should have charged her
a consultant's fee, like a psychiatrist would
do, just for reading ("listening to") all her
complaints!
Now again, I don't want hate mail for this,
or people saying I don't care, when you
know how much I do care.
The point is, after all this positive email I
had read, this one negative email had the
power to bring me down. Why? Well, I
thought about it.
And then I talked to Michele (who works
for me) about it.
And she told me about this equation she
used when she was bringing up her kids:
THE 10/2 EQUATION
Regarding negative people...
If you are a 10 and they are a 2,
and you hang around with them,
you will not bring them up to an 8,
they will bring you down to a 4.
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She used this in teaching her
children how to choose their friends
wisely. But really, can't you see
how it can be used in dealing with
bipolar disorder as well?
Here, follow me with this, as I apply
it to the email I got. I can either
surround myself with positive people
or negative people.
Regarding the email I got, I am the 10
and she is the 2. I could try to answer
her with positive answers, and try to
bring her up to an 8, but considering
how negative her email was, most
likely that won't work, and she will
just succeed in bringing me down to
a 4 instead.
See what she's done already? I'm
already bummed out about it, feeling
negative, letting it upset my day to
the point that I'm writing about it in this email!
OR...
I can choose to stay a 10 on the
positivity scale in the 10/2 Equation.
I can let that email go. I can surround
myself with positive people. I can
stay positive and NOT let negative
people bring me down.
These are choices I can make.
People like the lady in the email are
going to be negative no matter what.
They will try to get other people to
listen to them complain, because they are
negative and not solution-oriented.
They just want someone to buy into
their negativity and listen to them.
But we don't have to do that. We are
TENS! We have a choice! We don't
have to be brought down to 4's if
we don't want to! We can surround
ourselves with positive people!
Have you had problems like I had with
this woman?
Have you found yourself surrounded
with negative people?
Can you relate to the 10/2 equation?
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Well, I have to go!
Your Friend,
Dave
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