Bipolar Supporter? Deal or No Deal
Published: Sun, 11/29/09
Hi ,
How's it going?
I hope you're doing ok.
Have you ever seen this TV
show called Deal or No Deal?
Each time, the contestant has
to choose whether to open a
suitcase or not, that will have
a dollar value in it.
The idea, of course, is to choose
correctly and win the game.
So how does this relate to
bipolar disorder?
I'll explain.
If your loved one has bipolar
disorder, they are sometimes
going to act in ways that you
don't like.
Especially when they go into
episodes.
And really especially if they
need to go to the hospital, and
are refusing to go.
When my mom was like that
and she needed to go to the
hospital, I had to make a deal
with her for her to go.
It's ok to make deals with your
loved one.
In fact, it can be very effective.
In my courses/systems, I go over
strategies to helping your loved
one, including hospitalization.
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Some people say that it's playing
dirty to make a deal with your
loved one to do certain things.
I don't think it is.
Especially if it works.
Some loved ones are more receptive
than others.
But why not try this with your
loved one?
It could be the answer you've been
looking for.
Other supporters say that making
a deal with your loved one is like
making a deal with your child -
like you promise them candy if
they behave in the store.
They claim that you're treating
your loved one like a child.
But I don't agree with that.
I think this idea works.
Say your loved one has to go
to the doctor today, and they
are refusing to go.
You could make a deal with
them.
Tell them that if you go to the
appointment together, that
afterwards, you can go out for
lunch, or something like that.
It's not childish - it involves
cooperation.
And, in this case, getting a
person to agree to cooperate
with something they don't
like or want to do.
You can use this idea with
other things as well.
What if they are not wanting
(or forgetting) to take their
medication?
Well, if you're on medication
as well, this is easy.
You just make a deal that the
two of you will take your
medications at the same time.
Even if you're not on medication,
you can still make a deal with
them to take their medication.
It's not only important, but it's
crucial to their stability.
What if your loved one isn't
sleeping right?
Make a deal that you will go to
sleep with them, or offer to give
them a backrub or some other
enticement to go to bed.
(Although this might get old,
so you'll have to think of something
else.)
I know it may be hard for you
to treat your loved one this way
(making deals), and you may not
like doing it.
But I can tell you from experience
that it IS effective!
Why don't you try this idea and
let me know how it goes -
I love success stories!
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Well, I have to go!
Your Friend,
Dave
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