Bipolar Supporter – When You Know What You Want
Published: Wed, 12/30/09
Hi ,
How's it going for you today?
I hope things are going good
for you.
Remember when you were
younger, and you wanted
something so bad you almost
couldn't stand it?
Like at Christmastime, getting
that one present you wanted
more than anything else.
Then, as you get older, you
may have the same strong
desire for something, but you
can't always count on someone
else providing it for you.
Some things you have to do
for yourself.
When you know what you want,
and you want it badly enough,
you'll find a way to get it.
That's what happens when you're
an adult.
No more Santa Clause.
Just you.
And your ability to attain what
you desire.
First, though, you need to know
what you want.
So how does this relate to
bipolar disorder?
Say you want things to be less
stressful at home.
Say you want it very badly.
Well, no one is going to do the
work for you - you first of all
have to want it bad enough, and
second of all, want it bad enough
to do what it takes to attain it.
So you might think of ways to
make your home environment
more peaceful.
You might brainstorm some ideas
and then act upon them.
You can't just wait on your loved
one to do it for you, because they
may either not see the same need,
or acknowledge it, or be willing
or able to do it like you can.
I know, that sounds like it's all on
you to do the hard work...
But sometimes you have to pick
up the slack from your loved one.
That is, if it's something you
want bad enough.
Again, if you want something bad
enough, you'll do whatever it takes
to get it.
In my courses/systems, I talk about
this in relation to stability:
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If your loved one wants stability
bad enough, they will do whatever
it takes to attain it.
And that may be what you want
as well.
Although you can't make your
loved one do what they have to
do to attain stability...
You can do your part.
You can help them remember
to take their medications.
You can see that they get to all
their appointments.
You can make sure that they
stay productive, even if that means
writing up a To-Do List for them.
You can go to your own support
group and find out how other
supporters are dealing with their
loved one's bipolar disorder.
In other words, if you want something
bad enough, you'll do what it takes
to get it.
That doesn't mean, though, that
you can't ask for help.
In fact, if you don't ask for help, you
may suffer burnout, trying to do
everything yourself.
On the other hand, you don't want
to do for your loved one what they
can do for themselves.
You have every right to expect
them to participate in what they can.
Like the example I used of keeping
a stress-free home environment.
They can help with that, too.
Can you think of an example of
something you wanted so bad you
were willing to do whatever it
took to get it?
That's the right attitude you (and
your loved one) need to have
toward bipolar stability.
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Well, I have to go!
Your Friend,
Dave
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