Bipolar Supporter - Spinning Your Wheels?
Published: Mon, 02/22/10
Hi ,
How are you doing today?
I hope you're having a great day.
Do you know who Bill Cosby is?
Well, he has a video where he
talks about his children, and it's
hilarious!
He does this bit where he says he
catches his son with a cookie and
tells him that he has to put it back,
that he can't have it right then.
Then a few minutes later, he hears
the rustling of the cookie bag.
So he catches his child in the
middle of getting another cookie.
And he says, "Didn't I tell you that
you can't have a cookie?"
And the kid says, "Uh huh."
And Cosby says, "Then why are
you getting a cookie?"
And the kid says, "I don't know."
So he's told to put it back, and he
does.
But a few minutes later, Cosby
hears the cookie bag rustling
again, and catches his child in
the act a second time.
But this time, when he catches
him and asks why he took the
cookie, he says, "I was getting
one for you."
LOL
But wait - there's more:
Cosby says, "But I don't want
a cookie."
And his child says, "Then can I
have it?"
It was so funny!
All he did was spin his wheels.
And got nowhere.
That's what I want to talk about
today - spinning your wheels.
And how it relates to bipolar
disorder.
Even though it was a light-
hearted way to look at it, this
was an illustration that can be
applied to your loved one.
You know, sometimes they really
do not have an answer for you.
They don't know why they act
the way they do or do the things
they do, or even say the things
they say.
One of the things I go over in my
courses/systems is how you need
to learn to distinguish between
what is the disorder and what is
your loved one.
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I'm not saying not to hold them
responsible for the things they say
and do, but keep in mind that
sometimes they won't know.
Many people with bipolar disorder,
when they have an episode, get a
type of amnesia afterwards.
In other words, you may think
they're lying because they don't
remember doing something that
you remember vividly.
But they truly may not remember.
Not everyone who has bipolar
episodes necessarily remembers
what happens during them.
And if your loved one is someone
who doesn't remember, you'll
just be spinning your wheels
trying to get them to talk about
something they really can't
remember.
Now, that's not to say that they
shouldn't still be responsible for
the consequences of their episodes,
whether they remember the
behavior or not, because they
should.
But if you find yourself up against
a firewall with them, it's better to
just drop it rather than just keep
spinning your wheels and getting
nowhere.
Like fighting with your loved one
when they are agitated and in a
manic episode.
There's no way you're going to
win that fight.
So why try?
You'll just be spinning your wheels.
You're better off putting your
efforts somewhere else where they
will have better use.
Do you ever feel like you're
spinning your wheels with your
loved one?
Like you're getting nowhere?
If so, you may have to change
your approach.
If something works, do it.
If it doesn't work, change it.
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Well, I have to go!
Your Friend,
Dave
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