Bipolar Disorder? Don't Waste Your Time
Published: Tue, 04/06/10
Hi ,
How's it going?
I hope you're having a good day.
I was talking to this guy at the gym
the other day, and it really affected
me.
We were talking about the economy.
He believes that everything is going
to be fine, like, tomorrow or next
month.
Well, I read the news and expert
opinions all the time on all kinds of
things, so I know that's not true.
So I told him so.
He got really mad, and started to
defend his position.
I, of course, defended mine.
Well, guess what happened?
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Nothing.
Nothing happened.
Nothing was accomplished.
He couldn't change my mind, and
I couldn't change his.
It was a total waste of time.
Your loved one may have told you
some things that you don't agree
with, but fighting about it would
be a waste of your time, too.
It will help if you try to see things
from their point of view, like I talk
about in my courses/systems.
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For example, if they say that you
never listen to them, you better
really hear that, because they're
saying a lot there.
They could be feeling neglected,
frustrated, angry, anxious, stressed,
or any number of negative feelings
that, if not taken care of, can put
them into a bipolar episode.
So you really have to try to see
their point of view.
First of all, reflect back to them
what they have said to you -
this shows that you're actively
listening.
For instance, you can say:
"I hear that you feel like I never
listen to you, but can you give me
some examples?"
Then it is their responsibility to
give you specifics.
Then examine the specifics.
Ask yourself if you really do all
these things?
Try to see it from their point of
view.
Like, say they say that whenever
they try to talk to you, you keep
staring at the TV.
So you examine it, and see that it
is true.
Then from now on, when they talk
to you, turn to face them. This shows
that you are actively listening.
You need to develop this habit.
Because otherwise they could go
into an episode because you didn't
heed the warning when they were
trying to tell you.
Your loved one may be stable
today, but you need to always be
on guard for an episode anyway.
Sometimes they can come out of
seemingly nowhere.
The point is, always try to see your
loved one's point of you.
Don't waste your time arguing
about it, when there may be something
you can do to fix the problem.
What are some of the ways that
you have experienced this?
Do you agree that it's a waste of
time to argue with your loved one?
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Well, I have to go!
Your Friend,
Dave
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