Loved One With Borderline Personality Disorder? Avoid this.
Published: Thu, 07/03/08
Hi ,
Hope you're doing ok.
Today I want to talk to you about
WORRY THOUGHTS.
These are thoughts that your loved
one has that get in the way of their
personal (interpersonal) effectiveness.
One of these worry thoughts is that they
worry about bad consequences. This is
because they're afraid even before they
attempt to try anything, of what is going
to happen AFTER they try it!
This kind of thing will keep them
immobilized, so they won't do anything
at all. That's why it's called a worry
thought.
They worry about whether they deserve to
get what they want. A lot of people are
like this, not just people with borderline
personality disorder. They feel guilty if
they get what they want, thinking about
the starving kids in Africa, or whatever.
But with someone who has borderline
personality disorder, this becomes a
worry thought, and is exaggerated.
In my main course and resource below:
SUPPORTING A LOVED ONE WITH BORDERLINE?
http://www.borderlinecentral.com/report/
NEED HELP EXPLAINING BORDERLINE PERSONALITY?
http://www.borderlinecentral.com/explainingborderline/
I teach about the signs/symptoms of
people with borderline personality disorder,
and how sometimes they will have these
kinds of thoughts, which determine how
they'll act (or keep them from acting).
For example, they also worry about not
being perfect. Now, some people who
don't even have borderline personality disorder
might be like that, and strive for perfectionism,
but that's something completely different.
Someone with BPD will worry it to death.
It will affect everything for them. Like if
they can't do it perfectly, they won't try it
at all.
And the real problem is that they not
only expect themselves to be perfect, but
they expect YOU to be perfect, too, which
can lead to a lot more problems.
Another worry thought is that they worry
about doing things wrong. This is different
from what I was just saying.
Your loved one has a tendency to see
everything in black and white, right and wrong
terms. So they really worry about doing things
wrong. This is a big concern for them.
In the same way, they worry about being a
bad person. See? Black/white, right/wrong,
bad/good. But this goes way back to when
they were real little, and has to do with their
low self-esteem and poor self-image (or lack
of one).
Deep down, your loved one may truly think
they really are a bad person, so this may be a
big worry thought for them.
Your loved one may even have a worry thought
that they'll fall apart if they get around strangers,
that they won't be able to hold up their "mask"
any longer.
So they may not want to do things in public with
you. So if you have a loved one like that, you
may be able to understand why now.
Your Friend,
Dave
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