Stop This and Your Loved One With Borderline Might Get Worse
Published: Mon, 04/27/09
Hi,
How's it going?
I saw the funniest scene the other day.
This young kid was trying to teach his
little brother how to ride a bike.
He would put his little brother on the
seat, put his feet on the pedals, put his
hands on the handlebars, tell him to
start pedaling, then...
As soon as he would let go of the bike...
That little kid would fall off the bike!
I know, it seems mean that I would find
that funny, but that wasn't what was funny.
What was funny was the look on the older
brother's face - he was SO frustrated!
So what would he do?
He would pick up the bike and his little
brother...
Put his brother back on the bike seat...
Put his feet on the pedals...
Put his hands on the handlebars...
Tell him to start pedaling, then...
As soon as he would let go of the bike...
That little kid would fall off the bike!
And, again, the older brother would
get SO frustrated.
Well, you know the definition of insanity,
right?
"Doing the same thing over and over again,
expecting different results."
Well, you would think the older brother
would have at least tried holding onto his
little brother a little longer before letting
go, or maybe given him a little push, or
at least done SOMETHING different,
wouldn't you?
But that's easy for us to say.
We're adults.
We know a lot more than this young boy.
We've learned a lot along the way.
We sure can't blame him for trying to
teach his little brother to ride that bike
in the only way he knew how.
And we sure can't blame his little brother
for not learning on his first try.
So what does all that have to do with
borderline personality disorder?
Well, I'll tell you.
Eventually, that little boy is going to
learn how to ride a bike.
Oh, not on his first try, for sure.
Probably not even on his second try.
And if he gives up then, guaranteed,
he'll never learn how to ride one.
But if he keeps at it, he will.
It's like when you first heard of
borderline personality disorder.
When your loved one first got diagnosed.
You may have gotten some pamphlet
from the doctor about it.
The doctor may even have told you a
little bit about it.
But if you stopped there, it would have been
like that little boy stopping after his first try.
He never would have learned enough.
So, say then that you got a book on borderline
personality disorder, and you read that book.
That would be like that little boy's second
try to ride that bike.
But if you stopped there, you would never
be able to understand your loved one, just
like that little boy would never learn how
to ride a bike.
It's too soon. It's like giving up.
It's like thinking you already know everything
there is to know.
And believe me, after a pamphlet and one
book, you wouldn't.
In my main course and resource below, I teach
people that you have to get as much information
on borderline personality disorder as you
can in order to help your loved one:
SUPPORTING A LOVED ONE WITH BORDERLINE?
http://www.borderlinecentral.com/report/
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http://www.borderlinecentral.com/explainingborderline/
Whatever you do in life, if you don't
have enough information, you aren't
going to be able to do it.
Not only that, if you don't have the
RIGHT information, you're not going
to be able to do it.
I could study all day long to be a doctor,
but that isn't going to make me one.
You also have to put what you learn
into practice.
So, first you have to learn all you can
about borderline personality disorder
in order to help your loved one.
And it has to be the right information.
There is always information out there,
on every subject under the sun.
But it may not necessarily be the right
information.
Then you have to put that information
to use to help your loved one.
But here's the main point of this whole
email.
If you STOP learning...
If you think all the information you get
in the beginning is all you need...
And you don't KEEP learning...
You won't be helping your loved one
the most that you can, and your loved
one might even get worse.
Think about it like this:
What if you thought you learned
everything you ever had to learn in
grammar school, and never went on to
high school?
Would that have made you as smart as
you are today?
You need to help your loved one in the
best way you can.
You need to be the best supporter you
can be.
And that means that you can NEVER
stop learning all you can about borderline
personality disorder!
Your Friend,
Dave
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