Borderline? Dangerous 9-Letter Word
Published: Mon, 03/23/09
Hi ,
I hope you're doing okay.
Today I want to talk about a 9-letter
word that can be very dangerous for
you:
ISOLATION
Many times, when someone is a
supporter to a loved one with
borderline personality disorder,
isolation is something they experience.
You may already be experiencing it.
People with borderline personality
disorder can be very controlling.
They can be very possessive.
This comes from their core fear of
abandonment, one of the main
characteristics of borderline personality
disorder that I talk about in my main
course and resource below:
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They are afraid you will leave them.
They can also be very manipulative.
Combine all these characteristics,
and you set the stage for...
ISOLATION
At first, you may care about your
loved one so much that you just
want to be with them.
You may not even realize this is
happening at first.
People with borderline personality
disorder can be so charming and
charismatic that they just kind of
draw you in with their personality.
So that when they want to be alone
with you, you may see this as just them
caring for you as much as you care
about them.
You probably even like it.
When they order for you in a restaurant,
you may like it.
When they buy you clothes, you may
like it.
When they make other choices for you,
you may like it.
When they want to stay home with you
instead of going out, you may like it.
At first.
But this is the beginning of :
ISOLATION.
But when they start choosing your
friends...
When they start telling you who
you can and cannot see...
The type of car you should drive...
When they won't let you pick up
the phone...
Or check the mail...
Or pull you away from your family...
Or start interfering with your job...
You begin feeling that they are
making you crazy.
They are. It's called "crazy making,"
part of their borderline personality
disorder.
And another sign of:
ISOLATION
And THEN...
When they start criticizing you...
When they start calling you names...
Belittling you...
Humiliating you...
Degrading you...
Fighting with you...
Abusing you...
Ignoring you...
And other things...
That's when you truly experience:
ISOLATION
Because you don't want anyone else
to see you treated this way.
You're too embarrassed.
You begin to believe these things your
loved one is saying about you.
You begin to isolate by choice.
DON'T.
Don't fall into this trap.
Don't let yourself be manipulated.
Don't let yourself be used like this.
Don't fall for the charisma, the charm.
If you see these things happening, understand
that you are dealing with borderline
behavior.
Begin to assert your feelings at the beginning,
before things get out of hand.
Before you experience:
ISOLATION
Before it's too late.
Have you already experienced this?
What did you do about it?
Are you experiencing it now?
What are you going to do?
Your Friend,
Dave
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