Borderline? You Have To Adapt or Else
Published: Tue, 07/07/09
Hi ,
How are you today?
In my company, things are changing
every day.
And some people can go along with
those changes, and some people can't.
Those who can go along with them,
have the ability to adapt.
Those who don't have the ability
to adapt...
Guess what happens to them?
You're right!
They get left behind.
Either they will get so overwhelmed
at the new changes, that they will quit...
Or their work will suffer and I will
have to fire them.
I hate to do that, but you just have
to adapt to change...
Or else.
If I weren't able to adapt to change,
I never would be able to grow this
company at all.
In fact, there would be no borderline
personality disorder website at all!
There would just be a bipolar disorder
website!
But I saw that people like you needed
help, needed more information on
borderline personality disorder, just
like I did, when I found out that my
mom had it.
But what if I didn't take that extra step
and didn't adapt to that change?
I certainly wouldn't be writing this email,
and I wouldn't be trying to help other
people with my main course and resource
below:
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http://www.borderlinecentral.com/report/
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But here's the excuse that some people
who work for me have used.
They tell me, "But this is what you told
me last week."
And you know what I tell them?
"Well, that was last week. This is this
week, and this is what I'm telling you now."
See, things change all the time in my
company, and my employees have to adapt.
Well, it's the same thing with borderline
personality disorder.
You have to adapt...or else!
If you don't, well, it's kind of like the quit
or get fired scenario I used about the people
who work for me.
You will definitely have problems in
your relationship with your loved one.
You could have major problems.
Like what I said about "That was last
week and this is this week."
Unfortunately, when you are dealing
with a person with borderline personality
disorder, things can very well change
from week to week.
And it may be very necessary for you to
adapt to that change in a hurry.
What worked last week, may not work
this week.
Even what has worked for awhile may
not work any more...
And now you find yourself having to think
of a new way of dealing with your loved
one's behavior.
This is what I mean by adapting.
For example, say that your loved one has
a problem with anger.
This is a very common problem for people
with borderline personality disorder.
And say that whenever they have gotten
angry with you in the past, you have
always stood up for yourself.
You believe this has worked, because
you always got to tell your side of things.
But has it really worked?
Or has it just made your loved one angrier?
And you have to ask yourself:
Have you ever really won any of
these arguments?
So when you're thinking about adapting,
you also have to think about what has
NOT worked in the past as well.
In the case we're talking about, if
fighting back hasn't worked...
Adapting might mean NOT fighting
back!
Trying something different, like just
listening...
Or trying to calm down your loved one...
Or telling them that you can see that
they're upset right now, and maybe you
can discuss this when they're not so
upset...
Or something like that...
May be the adapting that I'm talking
about.
But the main point is...
Whatever you choose to do...
You need to learn to adapt...
Or else.
Have you learned to adapt?
Can you think of an instance where
you've had to change to adapt to
your loved one's behavior?
Your Friend,
Dave
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