Borderline? Going Back to School
Published: Mon, 08/31/09
Hi ,
How's it going?
I hope you're doing ok today.
Have you started noticing the
"Back to School" ads coming out?
They seem to start school earlier
and earlier each year, don't they?
And then the inevitable flood to
the stores to buy all those back-to-
school necessities for another year.
But it's because everyone wants to
be prepared ahead of time.
Nobody wants to have to get what
they need when school has already
started, because by then first of all,
they would miss the sales and have
to pay more money for their supplies...
But also because by then the stores
are flooded with people.
It's like Christmas Eve last minute
shopping, and it can get sort of crazy.
You have to be prepared ahead of time
in order for things to work out for
the best.
It's the same for borderline personality
disorder.
You have to be prepared ahead of time
(as much as you can) in order for things
to work out the best, too.
As I explain in my main course and resource,
borderline personality disorder is not an easy
illness to live with.
You have to have some things in place
ahead of time.
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You want to be able to trust your
loved one not to explode with anger
or rage.
But you can't count on that.
This disorder is cunning and baffling.
The symptoms can spring up at any
time, and you may not be prepared
for it.
Just like that last minute shopping.
But after awhile, borderline personality
disorder becomes rather consistent.
Or, I should say, that your loved one
becomes consistent in how their
signs and symptoms are displayed.
You can get warning signs.
Like if they are under a lot of
pressure at work, you might be on
the lookout for symptoms at home.
Your loved one might start saying
that their boss isn't treating them
like they feel they should be treated,
or that they feel unappreciated, or
that "things aren't fair."
That's when you have to take note
and be prepared.
Whenever there is stress in a person's
life who has borderline personality
disorder, they will usually start to
"act up."
And you, knowing your loved one
as well as you do, should notice a
pattern after awhile.
Say your loved one starts being real
irritable.
They're tense, or even fidgety.
Almost like a lion ready to pounce.
And that is your warning, because
when they pounce, they're going to
pounce on you.
So you have to be ready.
I'm not saying to walk around on
eggshells all the time, but just to be
watchful, so you can be prepared.
If your loved one gets aggravated
easier than usual, you might expect
that at an time an angry outburst can
happen.
Whenever someone with borderline
personality disorder feels threatened,
they will probably act out as well.
It doesn't even have to be something
you've done - it could come from the
outside.
But when they feel threatened, they
start changing again. They start using
their defense mechanisms.
And these defense mechanisms you
should be prepared for in advance.
For example, blaming will come out.
As well as accusing, because the two
kind of go hand in hand.
What are you going to do when your
loved one starts blaming you, or
accusing you of doing something that
you haven't done?
You have to know ahead of time.
It also helps you to be emotionally
prepared.
If you see some acting out behavior
begin to surface, you know your
patience is going to be taxed.
You will have to be more understanding
than usual.
Do you see how planning ahead of
time can only benefit you?
That way you're not taken by surprise.
Do you know your loved one's warning
signs?
Do you have any plans for what to
do when your loved one starts showing
their acting out behavior?
What do you do?
Your Friend,
Dave
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