Borderline Supporter? Don't Let Pride Stop You
Published: Wed, 03/10/10
Hi ,
How are you today?
I hope you're fine.
Have you ever had to deal with
someone who had a lot of pride?
Maybe someone who could never
believe they were wrong or even to
admit they made a mistake?
That's pride.
And pride can alienate a lot of
people.
People who are prideful are not
the easiest people in the world
to get along with.
I've seen this in the support groups
I go to.
It's sad, really...
I hear a supporter complaining
about their loved one, but not be
willing to do anything to help
them - it would mean swallowing
their pride.
So it's as if they feel somehow
"better than" their loved one
because they don't have borderline
personality disorder.
Then there are other supporters
who, just because their loved
one might be doing better than
yours at the time, act like they
have an attitude that their loved
one is better than yours.
That's really bad, because you
shouldn't have to feel that way.
In fact, they shouldn't act that
way, because the Bible says that
pride goes before a fall.
And they might find themselves
in your shoes.
Then when their loved one starts
not doing as well, they don't know
what to do.
Swallowing your pride means
asking for help when you need it,
like I teach in my main course
and resource about having a
support system.
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Prideful people think they can do
it all themselves, then are stuck
when they find out that they can't.
If you are having trouble with your
loved one, don't be ashamed to ask
for help.
You can even contact their doctor,
psychiatrist, and/or therapist and
tell them how your loved one is
acting and that you need help
dealing with it.
There is no shame in asking for
help.
In fact, there can be even more
problems if you don't.
You can easily suffer supporter
burn-out if you don't ask for help
when you need it with your loved
one.
You can get totally stressed out
trying to do everything alone.
You might even get depressed.
You might feel alone or lonely.
You might get frustrated.
You might feel disappointment.
You might even get angry,
resentful, or any number of
negative emotions...
All because of pride.
All because of not asking for
help when you need it.
Maybe all you need is a break.
Ask someone else in your loved
one's support system to watch
them while you do something on
your own.
It just might be the very thing you
need to break the cycle of
depression or frustration.
Don't be too proud to ask.
That's what those people are there
for - that's why they've agreed to
be part of your loved one's support
system.
You have to be willing to let others
help you.
You can't expect yourself to handle
everything all by yourself all the
time.
Don't ever let pride stand in your
way.
Your Friend,
Dave
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