Borderline? Don’t Wait Until This Happens to You!
Published: Mon, 03/15/10
Hi ,
How's it going?
I hope you're doing well today.
You know, I had this weird thing happen to
me earlier.
I got so caught up in tasks that weren't
part of my plan for the day that I got behind
on the things that I actually needed to do.
Now, I didn't get behind very far, and it
didn't take too long to get caught back up,
but I know some people who allow
themselves to get too far behind on pretty
much everything.
Most of the time when a person gets behind
on everything, it is because they waited
until the last minute to start on any of it.
They procrastinated.
Most of us are very good at procrastinating.
A friend told me once "I've got to stop
procrastinating. I think I'll start tomorrow."
LOL!
But in reality, procrastination can get us
into a lot of trouble.
Now that's not so funny.
This can be true of anything, but especially
when it comes to making and keeping a
recovery plan.
How easy is it to push it off and think
we'll get to it tomorrow?
But by the time that tomorrow comes, it
may be too late.
Our loved ones may have already become
symptomatic again.
A crisis may have occurred.
Or, worst case scenario, we might never
get a chance again.
The easiest part of procrastination is
coming up with excuses for why we can't
do it now.
For example, the laundry needed to be
done, as well as the dishes, and the
sweeping, and the bathroom needs to be
cleaned, and this is your only day to do it.
Sound familiar?
Or maybe for you it's more along the lines
of working, and then when you get home
from work you are too tired to do anything
but eat and watch television.
Have you ever heard this story?
It goes something along these lines:
There's a hole in the roof, and there's no
need to fix it when it's sunny.
But then the rain starts pouring, so the
need's there all of a sudden.
But then you can't fix it, because the rain
is pouring.
It is a vicious cycle.
Almost like a catch-22.
Once you let yourself procrastinate it's
hard to get out of that cycle until it's too
late.
So how do we stop procrastinating?
The first step is to realize that the best
time to stop procrastinating is NOW.
Then you can work on prioritizing things,
so you know that making a life-changing
recovery plan might be a little more
important than the floor getting swept.
If you're busy enough, it might even mean
writing it into your date book, and
scheduling a specific set time to work on
it.
But whatever you have to do, just make
sure it gets done so that you can work on
the recovery plan.
Making the recovery plan is crucial, and
should include help from your loved one's
psychiatrist, therapists, and your loved one
themselves.
It should be practical, and should include
small steps to reach larger goals.
Taking time to stick to the recovery plan
is an ongoing process.
It may mean you need to schedule set times
periodically into your planner so that you
have some time for sure set aside for it.
It may also mean that some free time gets
spent on it, because it is, after all,
important enough to be worth the extra
time.
Whatever stage of the process you are at,
it is important to work on it.
And it is important to work on it now, not
later.
After all, later might never come, or it
might be too late when it does.
Don't let procrastination get the better of
you.
Your Friend,
Dave
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