Borderline? It is Better to Do This
Published: Mon, 05/17/10
Hi ,
How's it going?
Hope you are doing well.
These past few days I have been emailing
a friend about a few things.
But here's the funny thing:
I wasn't getting anything in return.
After a few attempts, I began to think
that for some reason they didn't want to
talk to me.
But I decided I had better call them, just
in case.
It ended up they hadn't gotten my emails
at all!
Something must have gone wrong with
the sending process, or something.
It was a good thing that I double-checked.
Otherwise, I would have assumed
something that wasn't true.
And that wouldn't have been fair to my
friend.
It is always better to double check things.
In the construction business, they say
"measure twice, cut once."
Basically that means that if you double-
check what you are about to cut, you
won't make mistakes.
Now, this may not be a flawless system.
But it certainly helps you know you are
right or wrong if you double checked.
This is true of several things when you
are dealing with borderline personality
disorder.
Take, for example, medications.
If you are unsure about anything to do
with medications, it is better to double-
check.
For instance, if you are unsure about how
many pills to take, at how many
intervals a day, then you should double-
check just to be safe.
Or if you are unsure if your symptoms
mean that your medications might need
to be changed, then it is better to double-
check with your psychiatrist to be safe.
Can you see how these things are
important?
When something is important, you have
to be sure.
Another example of how double-checking
can help a person with borderline
personality disorder is double- checking
when their important appointments are.
Simple enough, right?
Here's one that's even more important:
How about double-checking whether you
are going into an episode by asking for
feedback?
That's a big one.
It may seem hard to do, but with a little
work on communication skills and a little
effort to remember to do so, it's not so
bad.
Now, how about borderline supporters?
There are certainly times when we need
to double-check things, also.
Some things we need to double-check
about our loved ones.
Like, for example, we sometimes need to
double-check that they took their
medications.
Or we may need to double-check that
they are going to their doctor appointments
when they are scheduled.
Some things are so obvious that we don't
need to double-check them.
For example, the manner that they are
speaking to us in, or the amount of anger
they are displaying.
But other things we do need to double-
check about, like whether they are
sleeping in an amount that is good for
them.
There are things we need to double-check
about ourselves, too.
We may need to double-check that we
are scheduling in time for ourselves.
This may seem like it's optional, but if
we are going to be healthy enough to
take care of our loved ones then it is really
mandatory.
We may need to double-check that the
information we just learned about
borderline personality disorder is
accurate.
This is especially true if it is something
that is controversial, in which case we
might not be able to determine which
side is "right."
But we can get more facts and opinions
on the subject and get a more rounded
opinion on it.
There are many things that we can
double-check on, and they are all things
that can benefit from it.
The nice thing about double-checking
things is it (usually) doesn't hurt any.
After all, it's better to be safe than sorry.
What are your thoughts on this?
Your Friend,
Dave
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