Borderline Lesson from a Stolen Car
Published: Wed, 07/07/10
Hi ,
How's it going?
Hope you are doing well.
I heard a true story about a ridiculous
situation this week.
Apparently, there was this grandmother
who was taking care of her grandson full-
time.
Her spouse had a long history of drug
abuse, and even of drug dealing.
The grandmother was tired one morning
and didn't want to bother to take her
grandson to school, so she asked her
husband to do it for her.
Well, the husband took their grandson to
school, and then didn't come back.
She had to go on the bus to pick her
grandson up from school later that day.
That night, the husband still didn't show
up.
Two mornings later, at 4 o'clock in the
morning, he calls her saying the car had
been stolen.
It almost makes me wonder if he didn't
sell it for drugs.
Especially since he called her but didn't
bother to call the police about it.
But regardless of if he sold it or if he left
it in a way that was irresponsible, I'm
completely convinced that it was his fault
that the car got stolen.
Now, the grandmother is left without a
car, and still has to get her grandson to and
from school, not to mention other errands.
She should have never let him use the car
in the first place - she should have known
better with his history.
But she wasn't thinking very clearly at the
time, and now she is paying the price for
it.
How often do you do that same sort of
thing?
That is, how often do you put your future
into someone else's hands?
Did you know that no one else will care
about your future as much as you do?
It's not their future to worry about.
Some people, especially those close to you,
will care to some extent, but it still won't
be as much as you do.
Plus, they are still human and have plenty
of potential for failure.
So they could end up messing up your
whole life if you put your future into their
hands.
Yet people who have borderline personality
disorder do this all the time.
They let their supporters do all of the work
for them when it comes to their recovery.
They depend on their supporters for
financial resources, because they have
a difficult time keeping a job.
They focus too much on their desires of
the moment to even worry about their
future.
Are you like this?
I hope not.
But if you are, now is the time to change.
You need to take charge of your own
future, and do everything you can to
secure it.
You will still need your supporters, after
all, you can't do everything.
Even people who don't have borderline
personality disorder still need friends
and family for this reason.
But if you take charge of your own
future, then you won't be using them as
a crutch any longer.
I know, it's easy enough to use borderline
personality disorder as a reason to say
you can't.
But the truth is, you can.
If you are following your treatment plan
and working towards recovery, then you
can decide how you want your future to
look and base your current actions on
that.
But you have to be following your
treatment plan first.
So there's your first step, and an idea of
how to go about it after that.
How can you implement a plan that will
help secure your future to be the way you
want it to be?
Your Friend,
Dave
==>> Great Resources For You <==
Get Your Own Subscription To This Newsletter Want your own copy of these
daily bipolar emails sent to you for F.ree? If so, visit:
http://www.bipolarcentral.com/register3
Get More Help On Borderline Personality Disorder Don't forget to take a look
through the different programs I've put together... each one is designed to
help you with a different area of borderline personality disorder whether
you have it or you are supporting someone with it.
You can see them all and get the details by visiting:
http://www.borderlinecentral.com/offers.shtml