Living Your Dreams Despite Borderline Personality Disorder
Published: Mon, 06/28/10
Hi ,
How are you doing?
I hope all is well for you.
Earlier I met a fairly young woman who
had borderline personality disorder.
She had a tactic to help her cope with
daily life that I think we could all use.
She constantly was making decent, if not
good, decisions.
She always took her medications and went
to therapy, even though she had not had
an episode in over a year.
She was careful that she didn't argue too
much with her supporters, and made a
point to step out of the room when she
became too angry.
She went to bed at the same time every
night and woke up to her alarm set for
the same time every morning.
She exercised and ate well.
She went to work, and never missed a day
unless she was genuinely sick.
She just generally had her life together.
I asked her what her trick was.
How was it that she, a person who had a
disorder that generally impairs things
like this, had her life more together than
even the average person?
Her answer was a great one.
Are you ready for this?
She told me that she lived today like she
wanted to live tomorrow.
Wow.
Isn't that a concept we could all use?
And it doesn't even matter if you have
borderline personality disorder, or if
you are a supporter.
Either way this is a good trick to learn.
I read a poem once, that said something
similar to this.
I don't remember it exactly, but I do
remember it's sense of irony.
Basically what it talked about was
procrastinating on everything, and
"throwing it to tomorrow."
And then, when the person in the poem
got to tomorrow, all this stuff was piled
up to do, and in order to stay sane, they
had to "throw it back down to today."
LOL.
But isn't this true?
In order to stay sane, we have to do the
things we want done, and we have to do
them today.
Otherwise, they may never get done.
Maybe you are one of those people who
procrastinates.
Or maybe you know someone like that.
I've heard someone tell me before "I
don't 'procrastinate;' I just work better
under pressure."
Personally, it sounds like the same thing
to me.
But maybe that's just me.
But I think that this lesson is not just about
whether or not you procrastinate.
I think that there's more to it than that.
I think it's also about goal setting and
prioritizing.
You have to know how you want to live
'tomorrow' if you are ever going to get
there.
That's where goal setting comes into
play.
And then, in order to live like that today,
or at least as close as is possible, you have
to prioritize your life and set the most
important things first.
Some things aren't possible to do all at
once, which is fine.
But what you can do in those cases is to
live like you need to in order to aim for
those goals.
What ways do you want to live in order
to get to the places you want to be in life?
And what ways can you implement them
into your daily life?
Your Friend,
Dave
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